Many people may first decide to seek out a mediator because their solicitor has suggested mediation. Or they may have read about mediation online, or been recommended to it by a friend. They may have a general idea about what mediation involves. For many people the first question is how do I get into mediation, or how do we start… Read More »
A separation or a divorce is never just a legal or a financial process. It is an emotional and personal journey that has been often likened to a bereavement. When you start in mediation the mediator will explain that other experts may be useful to empower and motivate you to find your tailor made resolution. The experts can be people… Read More »
When a couple decide to separate there can be a huge range of emotions that each has to deal with following that separation. When the couple start mediation this can make it difficult to hear each other. How often has somebody started a sentence with something that incenses you so much that you don’t listen to the next bit they… Read More »
It can seem hugely daunting when you first take steps to look at what will happen following a separation or a divorce (or you may only be thinking of separating from your partner or spouse). There is now a wealth of information on the internet on this subject which varies in its level of accuracy and helpfulness. Much of… Read More »
The Family Law Protocol requires all solicitors advising clients about family law to go through their complete list of options with them – even if they don’t offer some of the options as a firm. All clients seeking advice about a family law dispute should therefore have at least a basic understanding of mediation. But often that is all it… Read More »
From today various changes in family law are coming in to force. There has already been a great deal of change in recent times in family law with the removal of legal aid for most family matters – although it is important to note that legal aid is still widely available for mediation to resolve family matters. The main three… Read More »
For some people there can be a definite understanding that their marriage is over. They may discover something and feel they can no longer trust their spouse, or they may simply know it is time to turn a new page. For others it is not so clear cut. There may be arguments. There may be a breakdown in communication. There… Read More »
How often have you heard the phrase “my head says this but my heart says that”. Or people talking about whether they make decisions with their head or their heart. They usually mean that they are either an emotion or instinct led decision maker, or more about the facts and the analysis. Sometimes people are a bit of both, or… Read More »
People often ask us why they should try mediation. So we have compiled our top ten reasons why any separating couple should give mediation a go: 1. You talk to each other directly, usually in the same room. This lessens the potential for misunderstandings and cross communication. Where solicitors are involved and are writing letters on your behalf there is… Read More »
People often ask us why they should try mediation. So we have compiled our top ten reasons why any separating couple should give mediation a go:
1. You talk to each other directly, usually in the same room. This lessens the potential for misunderstandings and cross communication. Where solicitors are involved and are writing letters on your behalf there is always the potential for a letter to be misconstrued or read differently to how it was written which can cause relations between you to deteriorate.
2. It can often be a quicker way of making arrangements because you are talking to each other directly.
3. Because it is quicker it can be cheaper.
4. It can improve communication, and the relationship between a separating couple. This is especially important where there are children involved and the couple are always going to need to have a relationship. Do you want to be the couple who can’t both sit on the top table at your children’s weddings?
5. It’s a voluntary process and you can try it at any time. There’s no obligation to continue going to mediation if you feel it’s not working so you can try it without feeling that it is the only way or that you have to keep going. Effectively, what have you got to lose?
6. It can be used to resolve all issues or to deal with some issues that have become a particular sticking point.
7. It really does work! We have seen what people can achieve when they try mediation and how much they benefit from it.
8. You decide what arrangements you will make about your children and your money. We provide the process and help your discussions along but you are deciding your future – no one else is deciding that for you.
9. Because it’s your process you can decide what you want to talk about and work towards finding a resolution that is personal and unique to you.
10. The process is tailored to the couple involved and their personal circumstances to give it the best chance of working for the couple involved.' displayText='ShareThis'>