If you have only recently separated from your husband or wife, then you may be quite surprised to find out how the divorce laws work in this country. Currently unless you have been separated from your husband or wife for 2 years (this can include living separate lives within the same house) then the only fact on which you can… Read More »
If you have any experience of having solicitors resolve a separation with any degree of acrimony then you might be familiar with the following scenario: Things are ticking along and you are both trying your hardest to keep your head above water in every day life, to manage the process of resolving matters and to look after your children… Read More »
The benefits of mediation are huge. That’s not to say that it is easy. Often the things that we are most proud of are the hardest to achieve. Sometimes people are held back from trying, or committing, to mediation. In this blog we have tried to focus on the most common reasons why people say mediation isn’t for them. We… Read More »
When you first learn about mediation it can seem a scary option. Being in the same room as a partner you have separated from can be the last thing you feel like doing. Emotions can be very raw and you can wonder how you will contain all the feelings that are bubbling up within you. It can also be difficult… Read More »
When you begin the process of mediation you may feel apprehensive and anxious. You may wonder how compromise can ever be possible with someone who simply refuses to compromise. You may wish to avoid taking directly because you feel hurt, rejected and downright angry. It’s natural to feel like you want to run for cover rather than talking directly. … Read More »
Louisa Whitney, who started LKW Family Mediation in 2013, has recently been taking part in a mediation hour on twitter. The purpose of this is to allow people to ask questions about mediation. Why is this important? There are three main reasons: 1. Despite government and other advertising campaigns not enough people are aware that mediation is available to… Read More »
In this next blog in our series looking at what happens in mediation, we are talking about summarising. Often when a party has expressed a view the mediator will summarise what they have said. The purpose of this repetition is two fold. Firstly, it enables the mediator to check that they have understood correctly what has been expressed. Secondly, it… Read More »
There is still some mystery surrounding mediation, both amongst people who might attend mediation, and amongst some solicitors who refer clients to mediation. In the first of a series of blogs examining what happens in mediation we are looking today at exploring options. When somebody first makes an enquiry about mediation they may have some idea that mediation is… Read More »
When couples embark upon mediation they are ultimately looking for a resolution. They want to be able to find a set of arrangements that will enable each of them to move on. It sounds like a fairly simple objective when you put it like that. However, even deciding on the first thing to talk about, and what the priorities are… Read More »
Many people may first decide to seek out a mediator because their solicitor has suggested mediation. Or they may have read about mediation online, or been recommended to it by a friend. They may have a general idea about what mediation involves. For many people the first question is how do I get into mediation, or how do we start… Read More »
Many people may first decide to seek out a mediator because their solicitor has suggested mediation. Or they may have read about mediation online, or been recommended to it by a friend. They may have a general idea about what mediation involves. For many people the first question is how do I get into mediation, or how do we start it. In this blog we outline the 5 steps to get mediation started. We hope that this simple guide will show you how easy it is to begin, so that you can then reap the benefits of improved communication, and finding a quicker, and therefore cheaper resolution.
1. Making the first contact
The first step is getting in touch with the mediator to let them know you would like to try mediation. Here at LKW Family Mediation this can be done by phone with a call to 01306 646690, or by email to firstname.lastname@example.org or you can message us through our Facebook page www.facebook.com/lkwfamilymediation or you can DM us through our twitter account @LKWFamMed. We wouldn’t recommend a public post or tweet for obvious reasons!
2. Getting the details
The mediator will take some basic details from you and answer any questions that you may have.
3. Sending the form
Our mediator will then send you a form to complete called the Mediation Information Form. It is a short form that is just designed to give the mediator some basic initial details. Once you’ve completed it send it to the mediator. This can be done by post or email – whichever is easiest for you.
4. The Initial Meeting
The mediator will then meet with each party individually (and this meeting can be arranged at step 2 if you want to get started quickly). The purpose of this meeting is to explain more about mediation, to get some further background information, and to check if mediation would be suitable (there are very few reasons why it wouldn’t be).
5. Finding your resolution
Once you’ve both met with the mediator individually then you can arrange a meeting when you will both be present. This enables you to start the process of finding your tailor made resolution.
The time between steps 1 and 5 can be as short or as long as you both would like. Sometimes both parties want to get cracking and sometimes it can take a bit of time. The only important thing is that matters move at a pace that BOTH parties are happy with.
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