One of the questions that often crops up in the early stages of mediation is what financial information do I have to provide. The great thing about mediation is that the approach that is taken can be tailored to the clients in the process. In the court system everyone has to fill out the lengthy, cumbersome (and downright scary) Form… Read More »
Recent years have seen a steady increase in the number of couples entering mediation. This is due in part to changes in the law, but also a greater awareness amongst members of the public about what mediation is. They find the idea of being in control of their own resolution appealing. They are also attracted by how quickly the process… Read More »
The media appears to have gone into a frenzy in the last 24 hours with the news that Angellina Jolie may have filed for divorce from Brad Pitt. The rumours as to what has caused this event are already plentiful. There seems to be an unspoken notion that somehow a celebrity couple divorcing is somehow a greater surprise than a… Read More »
Over the last 3 weeks there has been a documentary on BBC2 following various different family mediators in their work trying to help couples who’ve separated find resolutions to a range of issues. If you missed it then you can watch all three episodes on iplayer. As it’s a programme on mainstream TV it has not shown all of the… Read More »
How mediation and psychology can work together to help you deliver the best outcomes for your children after a separation
How mediation and psychology can work together to help you deliver the best outcomes for your children after a separation Una Archer MBPsS is a child psychologist helping divorcing parents to soften the impact of their separation on their children. She works to help parents understand what they need to do so that their children feel just as loved, secure… Read More »
A hot topic for non-mediation professionals, who are familiar with mediation, is often when is mediation not suitable. Our answer to this is that it is not suitable in very few cases. Some people are critical of mediators, saying that mediators argue that mediation is the answer to all disputes. This is of course not the case and there are… Read More »
Don’t underestimate the role language can play in any dispute – and especially in disputes between separating couples. There are obvious examples of how language can inflame a situation such as the use of “my” children, in place of “our” children but there are other more subtle ways in which language can make or break an amicable separation. The… Read More »
When you separate from a partner then it’s a given that two things you will need are to heal and to find a resolution. These two are intertwined and sometimes you need to make considerable progress with one before you can make progress with the other. You may also have a number of other needs beyond that and here at… Read More »
We have recently put together a downloadable pdf of our top 10 tips to help separating couples to work together as constructively as possible. It follows our approach of helping couples who separate to find a resolution that is tailor made for them, and their children, through constructive discussion. You don’t need to be a client to download this. It… Read More »
The media do love a sensationalist divorce headline: whether it’s about quickie divorces, ongoing maintenance for wives or divorce day. They just want to sell papers or get clicks online. The fact that the divorce process takes the same time for everyone (about 4 to 6 months), regardless of whether you have ever been in Hello magazine, is neither here… Read More »
The media do love a sensationalist divorce headline: whether it’s about quickie divorces, ongoing maintenance for wives or divorce day. They just want to sell papers or get clicks online. The fact that the divorce process takes the same time for everyone (about 4 to 6 months), regardless of whether you have ever been in Hello magazine, is neither here nor there. So often the headline focusses on a single fact which is actually not the most important part at all. They shriek about setting precedents in cases that are often unique (or approaching unique) on their facts.
The newest phenomenon seems to be divorce day that is now cropping up every year. Frankly January is depressing enough without the need for such stories. Who dreams these up? It seems to be in a similar category to the announcement of the point in the year when you start working to earn money yourself rather than HMRC. These headlines are a twisted representation of the truth and they focus on the depressing, woe filled and “victim mentality” side of things.
New year is often a time to kick start a more organised regime and I wonder how many people finally sort out getting their cars serviced, investigating a remortgage as well as finding out what might happen if they separate from their partner. Many people live in relationships that they may not regard as happy and we wonder whether enquiries to Relate and other such marriage guidance services also increase in January? Clearly we’re trying to enliven and improve our relationship is not such an attractive headline.
The constructive and the optimistic stories about couples separating and making arrangements that put their children first struggle to get place in newspaper stories for most of the year but especially in January. For this reason, and so many others, we are proud to be supporting and making noise about Family Mediation week from 11th to 15th January. This is an opportunity to turn negative stories about marriages ending and warring parties into positive stories about how parents separated and children were listened to and heard and not exposed to conflict. It may not sell papers but we think it’s the story that should be told and the one that we’d rather go to sleep thinking about.
That’s why anyone booking an appointment with us during that week (whether or not the appointment takes place in that week) will get 25% off their initial appointment meeting fee. That includes the fees for both parties’ initial meetings. If you’re interested in talking to us more about how mediation helps separating couples to resolve matters amicably, constructively and with an emphasis on good communication then please get in touch or pass our details to someone who this might help.
If you’d like more details about family mediation week and how you can help spread positive news stories about divorce in January then visit www.familymediationweek.org.uk or follow Family Mediation week on twitter or Facebook.' displayText='ShareThis'>