Category Archives: Blog

Arrangements for Children: Review and take stock

Posted by Louisa on 15 October 2018 in categories: Blog , Family Mediation

We have recently been doing a series of blogs focusing on how you can minimise the effects of your separation on your children.  Tip number 5 was to review the arrangements that you have made.  We suggest that you check in with each other regularly (say every 3 to 6 months depending on how long you think the arrangements need… Read More »

Stopping things turning nasty

Posted by Louisa on 08 October 2018 in categories: Blog , Family Mediation

When you separate from a partner there can be a whole myriad of emotions.  Anger, resentment and fear are common and it is sometimes from a place seeped with these emotions that each party reacts.  When you react from a place of anger or fear you can often be seen as being aggressive or threatening.  A defensive reaction is often… Read More »

Focusing on the children in a separation

Posted by Louisa on 01 October 2018 in categories: Blog , Family Mediation

In our list of tips to help parents minimise the effects of their separation on their children we have now reached tip three: making sure the arrangements are child centred.  As we have suggested before this might sound obvious but it’s important that your arrangements take into account the different needs your children have.   Talking to your children is… Read More »

Getting it right for the kids

Posted by Louisa on 24 September 2018 in categories: Blog , Family Mediation

This blog is the focus on the second tip for minimising the effects of your separation on your children.  It’s about finding a system that works for you, and, crucially, works for your children.  We often get asked what the ‘usual’ arrangements are for separating parents.  The truth is that there is no such thing.  There is no law, rule… Read More »

Communication, communication, communication

Posted by Louisa on 17 September 2018 in categories: Blog , Family Mediation

When you separate from a partner the thought of continuing to have a relationship with the other person may be something that causes you upset, discomfort or stress. But if you have children that is the reality of the situation. You will need to talk about any issues that crop up to do with their schooling, their health, their behaviour… Read More »

It’s about the kids (FB Live)

Posted by Louisa on 14 September 2018 in categories: Blog , Family Mediation , Video

This Facebook Live  follows on from our recent blog giving our top 5 tips for minimising the effects of your separation on your children.  The video talks about each point in more detail.           Please follow and like us:

Top 5 tips to help your children during your separation

Posted by Louisa on 10 September 2018 in categories: Blog , Family Mediation

In this blog we are sharing our top 5 tips for helping your children as much as possible during your separation.  This will be a series of blogs as we will then be blogging on each point in more detail in the next weeks.  There can be lots of questions when you separate about how to manage things to minimise… Read More »

Do you need a support team when you separate? (Video)

Posted by Louisa on 07 September 2018 in categories: Blog , Family Mediation , Video

Do you need a support team when you separate or is one professional sufficient?  Louisa discusses this question and likens it to the old saying about needing a village to raise a child.  She talks about the costs of having a team and the benefits and what kind of professionals you may benefit from having during a separation.   https://youtu.be/L4gXpsTAs84… Read More »

What skills do you need as a family mediator?

Posted by Louisa on 03 September 2018 in categories: Blog , Family Mediation

We’re often told that we must be very patient to be a family mediator.  Patience may be one skill but there are others that we would suggest are far more important.  These are the skills that we identify as being crucial to family mediation and to helping couples to resolve family disputes:    Problem solving skills: often it is the… Read More »

Do you need a divorce team when you separate?

Posted by Louisa on 27 August 2018 in categories: Blog , Family Mediation

In a recent blog talking about the rise and role of divorce coaches we talked about using them for support in coping with divorce and in mapping out life after separation and what that will look like for you.  Understandably when we start to talk to clients about bringing in other experts their immediate concern is the cost of paying… Read More »

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