This is the last in our series of blogs looking at Keeping Children out of Conflict. If you haven’t looked at them yet then you can explore what it really means not to argue in front of the children, what to do when you’re not on the same page, and how can you know what your children are really feeling. … Read More »
This is our third in our series of blogs focusing on keeping children out of conflict. We have already talked about what it means not to argue in front of your children, and what to do when you really aren’t on the same page In this blog we are talking about how can you know how your children really feel?… Read More »
This is the second in our series of blogs on Keeping Children out of Conflict. Our first blog explained what it really means not to argue in front of them. In this blog we will be looking at what to do when you feel like you and your partner are not on the same page about anything. An issue we… Read More »
If you’ve ever wondered whether millionaires & billionaires divorce differently, then you are about to find out. Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, who is reported to be worth $137 billion and the world’s richest man and his wife, Mackenzie, of 25 years, have recently announced they are going to be divorcing. So how are the divorces of millionaires different from… Read More »
If you ask those not currently in the difficult swamp of having relationship issues then they may find the idea of not arguing in front of children a more simple concept. For those who are finding each day with their partner difficult, or waiting for the right time to break the news that they want out – or on the… Read More »
If you’ve both made the decision that resolving issues arising out of your separation in family mediation is the way forward then you may wonder how you can get the best out of the process. You may wish to ensure the discussions are as constructive as possible; you might want to consider how you can keep the costs down by… Read More »
Considering separation or divorce? This is a guest blog by Karen Marshall from Love Coaching You. There is a link to Louisa and Karen’t joint facebook live talking about this further down the page. Karen can be found via the following links: LoveCoachingYou.com Twitter@LoveCoachingYou FB@LoveCoachingYou Considering separation or divorce is an emotive question and will mean something different to everyone… Read More »
This is a topic that comes up in family mediation from time to time. We sometimes see a couple who recognise that their relationship is not working well and one has taken the decision to end it but the other felt they should have stayed together until the children left home so as not to ‘break up the family’. This… Read More »
This is a particularly leading question for some of the people that come to us for family mediation. How on earth can a divorce ever be good we can hear people saying. Well sometimes both parties accept that the relationship has reached the end of the road and that it needs to end and they want to do it as… Read More »
This is a question that we get asked a lot by clients that have come directly to family mediation rather than seeking advice from a lawyer first. Often both clients have come to the conclusion that their relationship has reached the end of the road at the same time. They want to maintain an amicable relationship and they have some… Read More »
This is a question that we get asked a lot by clients that have come directly to family mediation rather than seeking advice from a lawyer first. Often both clients have come to the conclusion that their relationship has reached the end of the road at the same time. They want to maintain an amicable relationship and they have some idea of the arrangements they’d like to put in place with regard to money, or their children, or both. They both trust that they will play fair and so they wonder whether they need a lawyer.
It can certainly be helpful in some circumstances to have some advice from a lawyer as part of your family mediation process and we would suggest particularly in the following circumstances:
1. You have wondered more than once if the decisions you’re making about what happens next and what money you will have are right for you. Making informed decisions about things that will affect you over the next 3,5 or 10+ years is hard and we would always suggest that if you are feeling overwhelmed or uncomfortable about that prospect then spending a few hundred pounds on going over everything with a good lawyer is likely to give you peace of mind and is probably a good investment.
2. You are concerned that you’re being manipulated or having your feelings played upon to influence you to agree to something you’re not altogether comfortable with. Again in this situation peace of mind is really important and so it may be sensible to go and have a meeting with a solicitor, with a full breakdown of what money you each have, so that they can guide you about the decisions you’re making.
3. If you have particularly complicated finances then some expert help may well be useful to ensure that you are on top of all the implications of your decisions. This may particularly be the case if you have investment properties, one or both of you is involved in your company, either of you is a beneficiary under a trust fund or you have assets totally over a million pounds (which is not just one property).
We see people who are often worried that lawyers will seek to position them against each other and try to spin out a long battle. Good lawyers don’t do this and will always work to your instructions and encourage you to be realistic about the way forward. Finding a lawyer that subscribes to Resolution’s Code of conduct can be a good step. If you’re local to us then by all means contact us as we’re always happy to share details of helpful local lawyers.
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